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May December Relationships

According to licensed therapist, one-sixth of women in their 50's prefer men in their 40s. Men on the other hand like the sophistication and life success of their older mates. Know more about May December relationships by reading more...

According to a licensed family therapist, according to a study, one-sixth of women in their 50s, prefer men in their 40s.  Men on the other hand like the sophistication and life success of their older mates.

According to a professor of Psychology, the key to making older woman-younger man relationship work is to match what she calls voltages.  Choose someone who is your voltage type.  One who has the same level of intensity about life.  if the voltages are different one becomes the pursuer and one the distancer.

While another psychologist revealed that an age difference of ten years or more may not be the most ideal for lasting relationship.  But there are those who achieve success in the relationship despite the difference in ages.  Furthermore, the danger of a big age gap between two people desiring to have a relationship is that they seldom have the same level of intensity in what they do.

Myths about May December relationships

Co-author of "Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance", says that they interviewed more than 200 couples for their book.  Though hardly a scientific study, the research surfaced three myths.

Myths about May December relationships:

  • Men will leave you.  Men will leave you for a younger woman.  In some cases, the man wanted children, and the relationship feel apart because of that.  It is always harder for an older woman in a May December relationship in such a situation.  The reason is mainly her biological clock.  Older woman is silently haunted by fears regarding childbirth right at the start of her marriage.
  • The woman as the seducer.   The reputation of a woman who starts a relationship with a younger man will almost always be questioned.  Especially if the younger man is quite a looker. People will always think that the woman is the seducer.  But the co-author revealed that it was the younger man who initiated the contact based from the research.
  • The affair will never last. A research revealed that some of the couples they met had been together 25 years or more.  The average length of the relationship was 13 years.

Some men are interested in older women that are stable and mature.  The reason is that men can reproduce until they die.  No doubt that a man stay with an older woman until she dies and takes a younger wife for the purpose of having a children.

Coping strategy

Wrinkles.  Since woman is vain by nature she can't help but feel paranoid that her age may start telling on her appearance.  The breast sag so does the butt. According to psychiatrist instead of being afraid that you will look old and ugly, challenge yourself to look your best.  Always remember that he chose you inspite of all the younger-looking beauties all around him.

Sugar mommy.  People will always think that an older woman having a younger man is a desperate sugar mommy.  Psychologist revealed to stop pampering your man.  You are not his mother but a romantic partner.  Let him take care of you even if he is younger.  Don't try too hard to seduce your man.  You will look desperate that way.

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