Conflict diffusers can be as simple as a word or two, actions taken to stump the situation, or even an external presence to help negate the anger that arises during conflicts. A conflict is just the existence of a problem or obstacle to your well-being and happiness.
Conflicts are prominent parts of every relationship I have seen for any length of time. It doesn’t even matter the type of relationship. There is guaranteed to be conflict at some point in time. It is essential that we be equipped to deal with the conflicts that will arise or face the turmoil of trying to deal, period. It is also essential to realize that some conflicts are non-negotiable; this occurs mostly when the acts of the other party and yourself are not the only ones that determine, or will be affected by the outcome. Preparing one’s self to effectively diagnose and respond to conflict is a great way to be ahead of the game. Knowing how to effectively diffuse a conflict before it escalates is an even better tool to develop.
Conflict diffusers can be as simple as a word or two, actions taken to stump the situation, or even an external presence to help negate the anger that arises during conflicts. Whatever mediums you choose spend time developing the technique. We’ll talk about a few and their uses in the following paragraphs.
Let’s talk about conflicts first so we can understand them. A conflict is not always physical; in fact, some conflicts are not even audible but can reap the same devastating results as the ones that are physical. A conflict doesn’t even have to include another person to be honest. A conflict is just the existence of a problem or obstacle to your well-being and happiness. Understanding the conflict is essential to finding a result and even a conflict diffuser.
Conflicts that involve only one’s self can be tough to navigate by themselves. I mean; you have no outlet for your frustration other than self and problem. The best thing to do is deal with the problem as best you can. Find the root-cause and devise the best solution for it. This should be done fairly quickly so that it doesn’t become a bigger issue than it has to be. Usually people delay what is necessary thinking these problems will vanish over time only to see them grow into monstrous situations.
Conflicts that affect two people are usually a bit more complex to solve because they may not agree to the outcome. What can you do as a negotiator or if you’re one of the parties involved. You can critical think the situation. The best decision makers take the time to argue the points with themselves, yes, with themselves. No one sees the situation better than you do. And if you can objectively take a look at the situation you may be able to offer a solid solution that works for both sides. If not, back to the drawing board.
Yet there are conflicts that involve more than two parties. The people involved can handle the small stuff. But at times the more complex symptoms call for courts, police, or a mediator to settle the dispute. Conflicts like these often take so many twist and turns because of the different views involved. Careful consideration is necessary and may demand the departure of one party in order for it to resolve itself. Conflicts like these demand reflection on self, on the other parties involved, as well as the possible outcomes. Weighing the current status against the possible outcomes one can usually determine the necessary steps that will determine the best results. Rarely do these types of conflict produce any real winners or benefit anyone.
Developing conflict diffusers based on scenarios you’ve seen before can help in a pinch. One-on-one diffusers can be simple to develop assuming you know the person involved. In a relationship the conflict can be stopped in some cases before a single word is spoken. When you know someone intimately it helps to appease his or her good nature. If the conflict must be dealt with it is best to deal with it as soon as possible. This way the memory of what caused the rift is fresh in the minds of both individuals, particularly important if one party has better arguing skills than the other. Negotiation can work in these circumstances if it gets to a head.
Diffusing situations that involve more than two people can be difficult but not impossible. For this you need an in-depth understanding of what caused the problem in the first place. For this it’s best to keep your ears opened and draw your own conclusions because there is more than one side to every story. In a case like this there could be several dozen sides, which can bear down on anyone before they have anytime to even suggest anything. Logical, critical, creative, and investigative skills are sometimes necessary with situations like these. Getting to know in whole or in part one or all of the subjects involved is necessary in most cases.
A conflict diffuser is something we use to stop a conflict before it escalates to more than it should be. Let’s consider this for a second. We usually want to live drama free as we’ve become accustomed to saying. A conflict diffuser offers just that. A way to stem the problem and ease the tension before the problem escalates.
A diffuser can be something as simple as a hug if you and the other party are intimate or close. Sometimes an apology where warranted and you know you’ve done the other party a wrong. But developing varying base techniques will help you to be creative during the process and also to identify problems that are arising as well as those who will be affected by your actions or inaction. In any case it’s best to take action and make a decision that may not seem logical to anyone but you.
How do we use diffusers then? Taking a critical and unbiased look at the situation is necessary here. You will need to put your emotions aside and take a critical look at what’s happening and consider every aspect of it logically. There is no other way. Consider the outcome for all parties, even those indirectly affected and try to see what effect the conflict will have on them. If you can see things clearly then you can formulate a diffuser than can help you slow, stop, or eliminate the conflict all together. In some cases, eliminating the conflict may require you withdrawing from it.
Failing to properly diagnose a conflict and to deal with it or diffuse it can lead to other conflicts. Conflicts stemming from old conflicts can engulf people who were note even a part of the original problem. It’s best to fully consider each party and every aspect of the conflict as well as possible outcomes and make your best-informed decisions. Whatever that decision is, it is best to follow through on it no matter what it costs.
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